Your best friend has seen you in all types of tees — the one you got from a Walk-A-Thon back in 1997, the one you accidentally puked on during a horrible party a year or so ago, and the one that is two steps away from being a dust rag. Your best friend accepts you for you. If they weren't, you would have hid him on Facebook the second that feature became available. You've probably heard about how his last girlfriend was possessive, or needy, or crazy, or in a secret cult, or all of the above. If you both like music, you can always check to see who's playing at the local club. Whatever it is, you know that a lot of your interests are aligned. First dates are the absolute worst.
While I don't regret the romantic misadventures I had before things clicked with my best friend and I, I definitely wish I could go back and tell myself that dating didn't have to be , or so heartbreaking — the key to true happiness was right in front of me the entire time. While these events may have been traumatizing for the both of you at the time, the positive spin is that you both know what doesn't work in a relationship with the other person. So, if he knows that you were dumped due to an ex's cheating ways, he'll obviously know that you'll be ultra sensitive on the issue, and won't even make jokes about the matter. This has been your go-to guy for years, so you can't even imagine the possibility of removing him from your life if there's no love connection. A date can simply be an event you've wanted to check out anyway, and probably would have, regardless of your romantic status. He's fully aware of your bad habits Let's face it, we've all got one or 12. He's the first one you call when you're down, and no matter what, he always knows what to say.
Obviously you know that he likes hanging out with you, so you don't have to interpret vague texts or lament with your girlfriends about the issue. Just imagine him as a partner, just one time, and see if your perception changes a bit. Your best friend is also scared about this possibility, but you know what? You know that you already have a ton in common Obviously there's a shared interest or two which caused you to meet up in the first place. Or, maybe it was a mutual friend who brought you together. So, while you'd love to still dress up for special dates, you know that one false move won't change anything. You both have a lot on the line Granted, there's a chance that the two of you might just be a romantic mismatch.
He might have already met your family Meeting parents is massively stressful, but if this guy has hung around you enough, he's already familiar with your mom and dad. When you're dating, you're just cringing over anticipation of the moment when these habits come to light. And there's a chance that this failed experiment might tarnish the friendship entirely. The most attractive qualities in another human, I've learned, is the barrage of support they have given you throughout your life, as well as the years of history between the two of you. You'll be wondering if whether or not eating scoopfuls of peanut butter from the jar will be his dealbreaker, or if the fact that your socks are bunched together like a pile of unmatched nightmares will turn him off. He already knows your favorite color, and he understands your personal views of the future.
This is key in starting a happy and healthy new relationship. It's because you've already labeled him or her as something else. Especially if he's somewhat of a social media over-sharer. He's seen you under-dressed a billion times, and likes you just the same How many times have you switched shirts before a first date? My now-husband and I both involved ourselves with many different romantic relationships before giving our friendship a shot at something else, and I feel like if I didn't , my life would be drastically different and probably way sad. If you both bond over something, dates won't be as hard to plan.
He already knows about your past relationships Unless you just met him and bonded instantly, he's probably seen — or at least heard about — your dating disasters of the past. Check out our new podcast,I Want It That Way , which delves into the difficult and downright dirty parts of a relationship, and find more on. He might joke about your gross yet satisfying nail biting habit, or he's probably aware that one glass of wine too many makes you weirdly political in social settings. Unless, of course, you prefer the challenges of trying to meet and connect someone who doesn't know anything about you. It's super doubtful that a date would have gone differently if you chose a V-neck tee instead of round neck tee, but the paranoia that sets in regarding wardrobe selection will definitely make you nutty. Your mood is elevated during his presence, even if it's when you're doing something stupid like snarking on movie selections.
. He makes you feel really good about yourself If he didn't, you wouldn't hang out with him. For example, if you're both psyched about the outdoors, a hike will never be boring. . . . .
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